Wed. Aug 14. W was supposed to come by in morning to pick up mail. Here is what has happened since.
Text exchange:
Her: got pulled to sf today. Can I come by tonight or tomorrow night? Friday morning might work too.
Me: do you just want to get mail? Do you need car?
Her (8:16 am): Need mail. We can arrange car another day if that is ok with u :-)
Me (8:37 am): Ok. Just let me know when ur coming and if I won't be here, I will leave where you can pick it up.
Me (10:51 am): FYI (phone) bill is due again in a couple of days.. I know it seems like we just paid it
Her (11:56 am): I can pay online now that I ha e login. I will post $xxx payment tonight, k?
Me (12:14 pm): k. Pls let me know balance after you pay. Btw we are eligible for new phones if you want one.
Her: (12:16 pm): I totally need one but don't want to commit to two year contract.
Her (2:55 pm): U working at nights still?
Me (2:59 pm): No summer session just ended. Only doing (job #2) until fall when I have 4 classes.. Yikes!
Her (3:04 pm): Busy guy ... Do you have kids tonight? I could really use a few hrs out getting a drink & appetizers
Me (3:08 pm): no kids. Where would you like to meet?
Her: (3:23 pm): trying to think of a good meeting place away from downtown. Was thinking (expensive place) but kinda expensive... Any ideas
Me (3:33 pm): how about someplace in (nearby city)? (Named three possible place)
Her (3:34 pm): drive will suck
Her (3:38 pm): how about Mexican rest by kids house on (street name)? Margaritas & tacos?
Me (3:40 pm): (name of place) .. What time? You coming from sf?
Her (3:42 pm): no in (hometown) now. How about 4:30 pm?
Me (3:44 pm): sounds good. See you then.
Her (3:49 pm): perfect
Her (4:33 pm): in bar at table
Me (4:35 pm): In traffic going back to house to get mail.
Her (4:43pm) Ur killing me... U r never late to anything :-)
I showed up late because I needed to bring her mail to her ( which took me out of the way) and traffic was bad. We had a good time. Very laid back and casual. W touched me a few times and it felt slightly flirty to me. One of the things we talked about was friday night sailing races that i do with a friend. She sounded very interested in going and next possible race would be friday august 23. I told her she should come with me that friday. She said at one point in the conversation that she had given up on men implying that dating is not going well for her.. I am not sure how to take this comment.
Right after we left she text again
Her (7:39 pm) thank you for hanging out tonight.
Her (7:40 pm) next weekend sounds fun (referring to sailing races)
Me (7:51 pm) I had fun too. I'll try to get you on a boat
Was that a date or a just a friendly get together? We hadn't seen each other since May.
Skip forward to Friday August 16 (no contact between)
Me (1:40 pm): did you happen to pay any of (phone) bill?
Her (1:56 pm): Omg.. I got busy and forgot.
Saturday August 17
Me (10:46 am): ok. It is due today so I will pay.
Her (10:49 am): I will login and pay $xxx right now
Me (10:51 am): thnx
Her (11:07 am): just paid (phone) and (other cc bill)
Me (11:13 am): thanks
Monday August 19
Me (10:28 am) just FYI .. The (cc) bill is due by the 10th of the month... I am getting all kinds of reminders (for that bill).. I was late on my other cc bills this month too.. Bills suck
Her (10:34 am): I just paid $xxx
Her (10:35 am): I will check again at beginning of the month to make sure
Me (10:39 am): Reminder said (double what w paid) is due.. So I assume (other half) is due by sept 10th... Anyway hope you had a good weekend
Her (6:02 pm): got it. Will take care of it next pay check
Me (6:25 pm): you are the proud owner of another (bridge toll) violation which I would be happy to turn over to you over cocktails again sometime.
That brings us up to date. No response to my last text. My friend cannot do the race on the 23rd so I can't either (his boat). Should I ask her out to do something else? I am not sure if I have a window of opportunity here or not. I don't really know what last Wednesday was about. It felt very positive at the time and she seemed very interested in hanging out with me again soon. I just don't know how to begin the process of spending time with w again after all of this time apart. We had previously agreed to go to vegas until she canceled two days before. That is all documented here in this thread. Wednesday was my best day with her since we split up. We have met up other times, but they were not as positive. One difference in my actions for this time was that I agreed to meet right away. Previously I had been busy and we had to work to reschedule. Anyway, I am lost and don't know how to initiate spending time with w again. If we were just starting to date (without our history) it would be much easier. Any suggestions???
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
