KattK, if I read your sitch correctly, he moved out in January? What have you been doing all this time? Also, you kids? How many and how old? Does he interact with them?
My impression is that the marriage had quite a few problems beyond any MLC.
You cannot change your H, but you can change yourself. This is important to recognize because what you wrote seems to suggest all the problems with him. What about with you? -- this is tough medicine since he is the one who left, but it is important to look at yourself and see how you can be a better spouse (to him or the next person), and a better person in general. Figure that out, and work on it.
Also, get out of the house and do social things that take your mind off of H and marriage problems.
