wife hardends heart-3

[planet]

I have already consulted another solicitor regarding divorce proceedings and norms here.

OM is a young and well built man. He has a higher paying job according to W. OM is a foreigner and I don't know where his parents live. Seems to me that he'll throw himself under a moving truck for W. Nevertheless, I do not accept his reasons and actions anymore.

[MrBond]

How young is young?

[planet]

7 or 8 years younger than me.

[MrBond]

That's not that young. So what does he do for a living? What is something that you can give your W that he can't?

[planet]

He's an IT software programmer.
I don't know him that well but i do know he's very perceptive.

I can repair things around the house including electrical appliances.

[planet]

Well, its confirmed i supposed.
W is having a relationship with OM. W left her email webpage open and i happened to opened it and saw their email exchanges. Theirs was brief email exchanges but it starts with 'dear' from both of them and ends with an affectionate term translated as baby from OM.
I think the relationship started right after they blocked me from FB.
I feel like exposing this relationship to her family. Let them deal with her.
What am i to do. I have lost all respect towards her. They could have at least waited until the D is over. I didn't mean to snoop but at least i'm in the know.

[planet]

W even throw in 'muaxxxss' which was previously reserved only for me.
They have inserted 'lusm' too.

I feel its over now. I don't know how to love someone like her anymore. I thought i knew her. She's always the one who would be very upfront about everything and doesn't hide from anything. She is not the person i know anymore. I would want her to come clean, at the very least be herself.

[planet]

whoa. what a night.
L gave W a call to inform her of forms submission. She suspected something amiss but its just normal procedure. She questioned me and i unknowingly admitted meeting L in private.
We had a long chat with W getting angry, threatening, crying and drag-the-past-grievance out. I validated her feelings and stopped her when things got too far especially about my parents. She even admitted that i have been good to her in the past.
I asked if she agrees to give me full custody to which she declined. I asked for my share of our house being paid back to me and she agreed on a monthly repayment.
I told her i will be moving away this weekend.
She dreaded on telling my kids and felt shameful about informing everybody regarding the divorce.
And she did not even mentioned OM. Nothing. I thought she would come clean but no.

[MrBond]

"And she did not even mentioned OM. Nothing. I thought she would come clean but no."

You still don't understand that to her she sees it that she's still just friends with this person. Unless you actually found something from her or him saying that they "love" each other, it might just be he's a distraction for her to get away from what she sees is a bad marriage.

Did SHE mention the word divorce during the conversation? Or did you bring it up?

[planet]

She mentioned it a couple of times. I said you wanted it not me.

'Muaxxxsss' (blowing kiss), 'lusm' (love you so much), 'dear' is pretty much personal.