Please do not share anything w/him that you've found concerning mlc at this time. He will deny that he's in mlc and will resent you for pointing it out. Also, the stages are a reference tool only...the length of times mentioned in the stages will vary, just as the bouncing back and forth in the stages. Each mlc is different because of the personalities, childhood issues and copying skills. Some have mild mlcs and others are truly nasty somebodies.
Read all you can and give him plenty of space and time to figure things out. While he's a passenger on the Mother Ship, this is the perfect time for you to rediscover some of those h hobbies or projects that you've put on the back burner. It is a time to learn more about yourself and get out in the world and meet new friends and do some things that you've wanted to do, but never had time for. This is not a journey for the faint of heart. It is not a sprint, but a very long marathon.
Continue to post and be sure to ask questions along the way.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
