Linda, I didn't feel offended and didn't think you flipped out over that word. This is tough stuff!

I hesitated momentarily to write that but went ahead as I felt that was how my H treated me -- disgustedly -- while trying to reach him through touch. He wasn't ready and felt disgusted. Our spouses are somewhat all the same and somewhat different. Idk what you should do. I just felt like if we shouldn't say ILY maybe stepping up his LL wasn't a good idea!

I really think relying on your DB coach is your best bet. GALbaby said it so eloquently to me last year -- that your coach can see to the heart of your M!

Our opinions here are all that -- just opinions.

I'll try to not be so blunt. I didn't mean to step on your toes !!

Hope you are going to be feeling better and recovering soon. You are a remarkable, loving and caring woman.

All my best,
rH

Me54/H47
'08 H is "done"
March '12 H moved out
Brink of D, December '12
2014 totally reconciled!
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"I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal."
Jim Conway