Me 10 months on. Dark and detaching still.

[hotwheelsaust]

HWA,

I'm curious as to when the last time you've spoken with W and how it was between the two of you. What have you learned from that particular interaction? Are there any cheeseless tunnels are you running into that you need to stop doing?

The last time we spoke, the W initiated, she even came and picked me up in the car. We spent about 2 hours talking. It was the first time I had seen her show emotion over our sitch. I tried to validate as much as I could. At one stage when she was tearing up, I asked if she needed a hug. The first time I have touched her in about 8 or 9 months. The conversation covered the assets and splitting. One of her comments was to change the house loans to principal and interest, rather than just interest only. I advised I can check with the bank manager about it, but don't want to spend money changing over the loans to then just have the houses sold within in the next few months. She agreed. Then after spending the next week talking to the manager getting costs etc. I get a text from her asking for my reply to the solicitors letter about asset splitting.
So my thought was "what the".
Maybe that is my cheeseless tunnel, maybe she is trying to get me to change the loans for my benefit as I want to take over the homes and buy her out. Maybe she is simply trying to get me fixed so to speak. A bit like before BD, when she got me on anti-depressants, tried to get me to quit my job and move back to the city.
In all honesty, that meeting made me think my W was starting to break down, to show emotion, to start to rethink what she was doing. No, I didn't tell her any of that.
Just me mindreading.

Thanks to all the over replies people. Time to continue to move on to another chapter. The tattoo chapter is over.