Need advice PLEASE;

So, wife replied to my text regarding her OM visiting my property. As you might recall, she "gave me a heads up", telling me that she was bringing other man here. I said absolutely no way. This was her reply to that....

How do you think that makes me feel seeing you live however you want, but yet you get to control my life? Oh and funny thing. I just called the police. you can not kick him off the property because I invited him and I live there. Would you like me to tell you who you can and can't have to our house, threatening the people in your life and controlling you? How about we grow up and move on and act like adults, instead of getting ugly with each other? How about you start showing some respect and I will do the same. Just so we are clear, I wasn't asking for permission. I have been respectful and also staying away as much as possible. It would be nice if the rules were the same for both of us. I live here too, remember? When was the last time you asked to have people over. Of that's right, NEVER. I wasn't asking to have him spend the night. We were invited to dinner with his racing team, who have camped there for years.

I am at a complete loss. I have no words......


Me:46 Her:38
My D: 11
Her S: 8