You know, if I had the answers, life would be boring I guess lol!
"I need help" presents itself in so many ways; destructive behaviour, suicide attempts, addiction...of course the person isn't at the point of asking point blank. I do know that there is the rock bottom adage for sure.
Not saying H is desperate for help, but he reaches out to me. I guess I question this;
Is he reaching because he wants help or Is he reaching because I am available?
I know he values what I say and the fact that I have no answers for him but support him in his "quest".
I also know he is proud of my journey and looks at me as a model (hah! thanks DB), but I also have done some very hard work, so I won't negate it.
I am not the point where I am unaffected by H's actions, but am less so than when I began. It is a personal path, isn't it?
While H has been straightforward he always ends up backsliding to me. It is not me in pursuit and it hasn't been since June. That is why I seem to be at a bit of a crossroads, in terms of how I should go forward.
do I say "Okay, I love you but this is your journey" ? Which I have, incidentally, to no avail.
I really think he needs to explore all his possibilities in whatever form he needs to. Because if we have a relationship I don't want it to be of the "nothing out there that interests me, so....." variety
Like GTO, I would require serious romance, a commitment and a lot of hard work on both our parts. Communication, respect and love
