Guess I belong here now...

[brobafet]

So I've learned to accept, at least for now, that if xh can't even figure out what he's doing or why, there's very little chance that I can.

BS, you already are. I doubt he is on a website called Divorce busting and working his feelings out and trying to become a better man. In fact I know it. He openly flaunts that he is seeing other women and that he doesn't really need you. You are figuring it out. Get it in your head that you are doing the right thing.

Although I am tempted to work on a second master's in counseling after i get my mls because there needs to be more ic's and mc's who use db'ing principles.

Do it, you're right, there needs to be more ic's and mc's that use these principles. It would have been nice if my xW would have read the books, and done some of the work herself, you can lead em to water.....

So, as the possibly crazy lady told me the other night, I need to be patient and just wait to see what happens, but I will be okay.

Anyway, I need to keep myself busy. I'm working three nights this week, two of them at singles mixers, possibly a lunch with friends tomorrow, and most scarily, a date tonight!

1) She wasn't crazy, she was an answer to a prayer. You asked for it and you received it, in spades. God gave you the biggest 2x4 you could receive, don't turn away from it. He told you to be patient...are you?

2) Awesome, get out do things. You're single again. I'm guessing cat lady isn't in your future.

I haven't been on a first date in over 8 years, I think, so this will be interesting. I'm not sure if there will be any physical attraction, but he's a smart, interesting guy, so we'll see what happens.

Don't expect anything. Just enjoy the conversation.

Xh is just spinning right now, so jealous because he thinks I've been going out and he's trying to convince me to move to his apt complex.

Apparently he's not sure if he wants me, but he doesn't want anyone else to have me either. That doesn't work for me. And if he does decide he wants me, since we're D, he'll have to compete with everyone else.

He wants you to move to his complex? Why so he can keep tabs on you? Creepy....much to creepy. He wants his cake, don't give it to him.

He's not sure if he wants you? Did he tell you this? Or is it his actions that show you this? He'll have to compete with everyone else? In my opinion he already lost. He's a tired horse that cannot run any more. You don't need the guy. Go on those dates, don't expect anything. Have fun. Enjoy your now free life, the freedom of not having to look over your shoulder, or wonder what he is doing, who he is talking to or texting. Sweet your worth so much more than what he is giving/gave you.

-Brobafet