How can you mend a broken heart?

[albamarie]

your H doesn't miss you. He is disgusted with your ways of ILY b/c of his crisis. He is looking elsewhere for affirmation. I think you want to play the pursuer/distancer dance not shower him with love. Is there any doubt in his mind you love him?

My H's IC asked him if there was any freedom I denied him. He said no. It wasn't enough to get him to come back

I have to agree with you RH. Tho disgusted is a strong work, unfortunately it is the right word.

Linda, this isn't meant to be harsh, only a good insight on what we have already experienced. My h said as much, stop L'ing me, you L me too much, your can't give me what I want right now, yes, there is something I get from POS/RT/F-Cow.

There is no doubt you L him, he knows that, but he doesn't care right now because it is about him. My H also said I can do whatever I want for him, that is not what will bring him back!

When I stopped showering him with all the extra's I pulled out after bomb day, and even pulled back more of the everyday courtesies, he did withdraw from me more, he even stopped speaking to me, but it was only to find his ''own'' way.

I am by no means on a road to recovery, but I have seen the difference pulling back has made. For me it was freeing....for him it was a growing up of sorts.

Now that I am not so close to it all I can see everything clearer and make better decisions for me.

best dm