starting over again

[Not Quitting]

(Just having a low night.) I'm having a sad and lonely night tonight I know its only been 19 days since H has moved out. I just can't stop thinking about him and missing him so much and I still wishing he would just come home. I know that he is not coming back but I still wish he would. OK enough of me being sad and lonely night. Good night and talk to you all soon

K you're trying to mind read. You don't know that he's not coming back - like TTD180 said it's early days. Things change. Your H may be saying now that he's not coming back, but he's still trying to sort himself out. It almost sounds like you're giving up.

Focus on yourself. TTD180 is right about a hobby. Cross stitch is relaxing, and it certainly takes my mind off things. Get yourself a couple of good books from the library, pick something on TV you've always wanted to watch but haven't been able to because your H didn't want to watch it, anything to keep you occupied.

You'll find the emptiness of the house and your feelings of loneliness will be worse if you're sitting around not doing anything. Keep yourself occupied and your mind won't have time to be occupied with what's missing from the house. If I've been desperate enough in the evening, I've even done extra housework (must have been a bad night - LOL) just to keep myself busy.

We all have the bad days. Just remember you're not alone in this. You've got lots of support on this forum. Someone will always come along and reply to a post with something to help boost your spirits.

GALing doesn't have to mean going out all the time. It can mean a new hobby or activity that you can do at home. It can be having friends come round to your house - have a girls' night at your place, instead of going out for it. The ladies I work with are doing just that this weekend - pool party and pot luck instead of going out for dinner.

Stay strong. You'll start having more good days than bad, and you'll realize that you are improving as a result.