Me 10 months on. Dark and detaching still.

[Fartiltre]

HWA,

You have to let it go! Get it out of your head - Continue down the road you have put on your mirror.
Do not discuss it with friends or family - just let it go!
I do know this is so much easier to tell than to do - but talking more about this pic will just worsen it all!
It could be that they see this in a different perspective than you but you do not want to rip this up again so IMO only talk about this if somebody asks you questions about it.

I still believe in you but following you I think I see two different tendencies off yours:
You act on feelings too much – we have discussed this so I wont go any further in to this.
When you act on thought you have a tendency off either getting doubts or secondly searching for another answer if the first one doesn’t become your feeling right!
My point is that I can’t remember a decision you made on thoughts that I believe was wrong!

You posted the yesterday and that’s how you should look at it! At the same time you are looking for answers and explanations that you properly won’t get for a long time.
You have this tendency of doubting your first choices of action and this makes your thoughts and actions shift!

* My W isn't contacting me for whatever reasons. I cannot change her.
* I married my W, not the family. So if the family don't want me in their life, it doesn't matter.
* If my friend cannot be bothered to talk to me about something that either annoys him or he feels wronged in some way, then he should have the "balls" to talk to me about it. Not simply defriend. Again that is his choice, I cannot change him.
* If my W wants to continue dealing with the solicitor for the splitting of assets, then I will continue to fight for what I can get. I will be fair, but I won't bend over and take it.
* I have to simply accept where I am in life, it's not great, but it could be a lot worse. Deal with it by being positive not negative.
* I have to stop being negative about things that are out of my control, actually even the ones in my control.
* The tattoo photo would not change my W's way of thinking. She knows the reason I got it (haven't spoken to her). But the tattoo would not be a deal breaker for the W, other things might be, but the tattoo wouldn't change her way of thinking. Who cares what the rest of the family think.

This is excellent! Why the change in thought? Do this and then keep on the GAL! Keep looking in the mirror and keep working the six-pack! You know what to do when you think about it! You have all the answers in your head!


All the best!

F