New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Quick update:
I have had a great few days. My son did his Mascot duties on Thursday night and i was so proud of him running onto the pitch in front of 15,000 people he looked so small but loved it so much, a very proud moment. All our respective families came along and all seemed to get along and made big efforts with my wife which i could tell she was pleased about. I had a night out with my pals on Friday evening which was good to vent some frustrations with people who were able to listen without passing judgement. I did a 10 mile run on saturday in preperation for a half marathon i run in a couple of weeks, it was nice to blow some cobwebs off and i find this time a great time to think and rationalise things in my head, boy i was gasping for air at the end!!
My wife and i enjoyed a night out on saturday which much to my surprise went really well and even ended with some intamacy something that hasnt happened since before my S happened
She sent me a text yesterday thanking me for a great night and weekend which is something she has not done for a long time, all in all a positive weekend.
A couple of things that do bother me that i was hoping for some advice on....
Its pretty clear to me now that my wife isnt in the same position as me in putting everything into trying to get things back on track (it has taken me a while to figure this out for myself). What should i be doing in preperation for her getting there? One of her major issues with me has been my inability to not listen to her something that i have really given my all since she brought it up, one thing i struggle with is that like anyone i am not perfect we had a situation on Saturday when i offered to iron her dress, as it is fairly delicate i had the temp on low however she threw a tantrum because i hadnt turned it inside out, she said she told me to do that and said words to the effect "see you never listen to me". I thought this was really unfair, i am not perfect and missed that nugget of information but it seemed to be a little knee jerk considering the progress i have made. I did pull her up about it but i cant help thinking until she is in a better place a small thing like this could be the breaking point again, not a nice position to be in worrying that every miniscule thing i do is being watched so closely and could end in tears, its a tough way to live.
What should i do on the intamacy front? my wife initiated on saturday night, up until then since being back in our bed we have pretty much been sleeping on seperate sides and this has returned since Saturday which i find quite strange, should i make efforts to move this forward or wait for her to bring this up?
Its funny i read Crimson's thread more times than is probably healthy and it does give me a reality check on where my situation is. On one side i have to be happy where i am at present but it sure does suck that i seem to be sat on a razors edge and that it could change so quickly.

Thank you all for listening to my ramblings, maybe i am posting too much but i find it so calming to write down my feelings