You have some super valid points Bug and I deserve 2x4 for sure. That us what this date is for and I really shouldn't call him SE2 anymore because I surprised myself by feeling the beginning of a connection. So you are right. It isn't fair.
There have been weeks where contact was just kid related finance related etc. but we always drift back into each others gravity.
Actually H and I had the " time apart" talk today and I said that he had to do what he had to do. We've discussed how being in each others lives may not allow is to move forward.
I am good with this path I am on and know h must walk his without interference.
Love doesn't mean he doesn't make me insane sometimes and the analogy between your S and my H stands. While you would let S walk his path you would also be a place he could rest should he falter, no? I am not saying you would help him up just give him shade or something to lean on until he got going again.
H and I are still so very connected in many ways and are beginning to build a strong friendship. While I have been unraveling our ties it is a slow process.
He will figure this out. Just as he figures out that he must sabotage anything in his life that he feels he does not deserve.
Me? While I post I tend to use it as a sounding board or to spill feelings that are inside. Guess I should journal on paper. Lol
All my marriage I drew away and was aloof. Our relationship now is probably the best it has ever been. So how do I balance this better ?
