Living in the Now(or how Ruby got her groove back)

[labug]

Ruby, do you ever think that maybe you need to really step back and let him go so that he can do whatever he needs to do? (excuse me if we had this convo before and you answered in the negative)

I have a sitch with my S20 right now who needs to do a lot of things to stand on his own 2 feet. He has to figure out his path and walk it, I can't be a part of it. I know the R in the situations are vastly different but human nature is human nature. What would happen if you didn't talk to him for a week, 2 weeks (oh, this is sounding really familiar)? I know it's scary to test that but it may be necessary. As I've said about my son, I have to do what's best for him not what's least painful for me.

I think it's great that you have a (more than)friendly R with your H but is it moving you forward? Is it moving your R forward or are you maintaining status quo? It may be, only you can answer that.

And about the guy you're dating, I know I asked elsewhere about your thesis...did he sign a human subjects consent? Is he aware he's part of an experiment? Yes, I am a literal thinker. Every time I read your moniker for him, I think about how I would feel if I found out I was part of a plan I knew nothing about, especially if I wanted to continue seeing the other person, was developing feelings for the other person.

However, if you said "Dude, I'm working through some sh!t with my H right now, are you good with that?" and he responded with "Cool" that's great for both of you.