WR, You can continue to stand and yet move forward w/your life. Leave the door ajar, just don't have any expectations. Unless you absolutely need a divorce to settle up finances, I wouldn't rush into it. Now, if he does file, there's not much you can do about it. People will advise you to drag your feet if that occurs...please keep in mind that if you drag your feet, it will cost you quite a bit of money to do so. Lawyers aren't cheap and each and every meeting, call, text, email, etc. costs money. Lawyers love to have mlcers come to them because it's actually good money because mlcers are off the charts and will come up w/all sorts of things to fire back at the opposing side.
Unless something changes, I would sit quietly and wait and see what he does. Now, if he starts screwing you and the boys over, then I would have to have a very serious discussion w/my lawyer about what would be required to ensure that you and your boys are taken care of.
I think it's best to allow things to settle for now. He needs to stew in his mlc pot for a while. He may very well contact you again and act like nothing has happened. You can never put your finger on them.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
