"Any suggestions on how/if I can help her look internally? "
You can't. You are still trying to look for a way to control her.
What you CAN do is possibly look into ways that would pique her interest in you. If can possibly seduce her in a way that she starts being proactive in engaging with her, that would be best because it would be HER choice.
Seduce her slowly and see what happens. There are different ways to do it, you just have to read up and see what works. Again, follow the DB principles by doing something and seeing if it has a positive reaction from her after a couple of weeks. If it doesn't, then move on to something else.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.