2old, most of us, if not all of us feel the same way you do about our WAS. Goddam it hurts. Depending on how each of us moves on, sometimes it might hurt for a very long time. But, we are the only ones who can do something for us. Doesn't matter how many times friends speak to us, professionals speak to us or even the WAS speaks to us. We are the only ones to make our choices. Your job is to decide whether you want to make the choice to improve yourself and your life. It doesn't mean you have to give up on your W, it doesn't mean you have to forget her. It simply means you have to accept a lot of things in life and to stop focusing on the negative of them. You might not find a positive about them, I certainly cannot see any positives at this stage of my life without the W. But slowly I am trying to reduce the negatives of no W. The positives come from other avenues, and that is the GAL side of DB.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
