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Just got back from a week long vacation with my W and S5 and S8. The boys seemed to have fun. While we were traveling, my wife received a phone call from a perspective employer who she had interviewed with just 2 days prior. They offered her the job and she accepted. Great news. W has been depressed since 2009 as a result of losing her career position she held for 12+ years as a result of the economy. That was the beginning of her downward spiral emotionally. This job is just what she lost 5 years ago. She didn't seem very excited and kept to herself mostly. I tried to loosen her up and get her excited, but she chose to stress herself out with thinking about how she has to give notice to her current employer. That's where the OM works as well. So, it's no more seeing him everyday...or maybe she'll make excuses why she has to work late or stop off places after work in her new job.

Anyway, she kept her distance during our week together. It's the most time we've spent together in months. It was like pulling teeth to have a conversation with her.

Well, we're back home now. Back to work. this is day one back in the routine. I have my first appointment with a therapist tomorrow. My DB coach suggested getting some anger management help and then sharing with W that I was listening to her and decided to get some help with that. It's one of the main factors that has caused problems with us. He's also a family and marriage counselor (Short Term Results Oriented)as well. Hopefully, he can provide some direction for me during this time. I'm really feeling unsettled and weak recently.