Hi turtle, I agree with Ruby about sitting for awhile. And I agree with AS about reiterating your stance. Its a tough situation but this is part of the challenge of DBing I believe. Sometimes sitting still with ourselves is the best response at a particular moment in time.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home