pay no mind to the demons; they fill you w/fear

[Whiterose]

I talked to my coach today.....she didn't have much more to offer me other than to keep doing what I'm doing and detaching. She said that I'm in a very difficult situation with a H very deeply depressed/MLC (so it would seem) considering his utter lack of concern for me or the boys.

She asked about his sole focus on the cash, I explained his entire family is awful with money and that his mom & dad have declared bankruptcy three times and that I've always had to control the money as he wants to spend it. She said that giving him the money would either make him calm down as I no longer "control" him or could send him further away....which I already knew were the two options.

She wondered about my response to H's text about S14 (not responding to his texts and I responded "I don't know H. Maybe you could try asking him" he may have taken as an attack. Also, she wanted to know why I didn't give H the new cell login and pw (when I called in to change it to get my bills) as he seemed to be angry about it. I did agree that this made him angry, she also thought it was strange that he would change the pw first, and really didn't have a good reason not to give it to him other than I was changing the acct over to my name and he didn't need it. I have started a new Netflix acct, had to cancel his acct to get my cc info off, so now I'm wondering if I should let him know. Any thoughts?

She kept repeating that I'm in a very difficult position with H as that he has no way of seeing how good life is unless he's on FB. He's not talking to anyone or even really the boys.

I feel even more confused and lost as to what to do.