Figuring out the old and new life

[reachingHigher]

Lately, I’ve been discouraged realizing that W really did not love me all these years. Yes, she showed me love, but it now seems it may have been just an act. She never really loved herself, she was just “surviving”.

You do know, of course this isn't true, right? And you all got M so young, how does a 20 year old know what love is compared to a 50 year old?

My H also said he never loved me. I even went back and looked at our wedding album at his face in the pics. Was he just pretending? No, my heart told me, it was real.

And your W's love and companionship for you was real too. Real and solid. But she is confused now, and searching and doesn't feel like she wants you to be a solution for this part of the equation.

But, really, FY, if she really wanted to leave you she would be gone. She has the financial resources sounds like. You all won't have child support as part of the D procedures. Is she afraid of what her dad would think? The whole family?

She knows you will always be there. So this is taking so long. I'm so sorry. It i don't want you to think her perception of the past is accurate. She is looking at it through her pain and maybe she is being like the dog that bites the hand that feeds her.

When H & I were headed for D last fall I was a friend for him but detaching. He was undeniably attracted to me but standing firm in his "I'm never coming back,". It's a push-pull. It's awful. But it happened and propelled him to finally seek help -- call a doctor, go on AD's, delay the D, allow hope in his heart.
I feel like a broken record saying these things but I want people to know it can happen. People can choose to work on themselves and get help. And M's can be restored.