I know how frustrated you are, I really do. It doesn't do you any good though going over and over them in your head. Don't talk to your W about divorce, it's one if Sandi's rules I think. Don't get in touch with her again. When did you start with NC with your W? I don't think you've given it long enough to see any results. I know how frustrated you are because last night I prayed really hard and asked God to give me a sign that will let me know where he wants me to go with this. Should I be waiting for my H to come out of the fog or give up? I told God I hated being in Limboland and want some answers. At the end of my prayer I said to God that I was handing my H over to him and he can sort it out. He will you know, just hand your sitch over to God and let him deal with it. I know that God doesn't want me to give up. He talks to me in my dreams and my dreams always show me and my H back together again. I have felt like giving up on my H. We all feel like that at times. I know that some people on this forum seem to cope better than others, but we are all feeling exactly the same as you. I love my H and I would do anything to have him back to his old self again. This new person that he's become I don't like anymore. The reason we all do something other than thinking of our spouses is to try and GAL. This prepares you for whatever happens in the future, with or without your spouse. It's no good staying at home pining for your S and wondering what she/he is doing. Do you know what? I think about my H daily, I wonder if he's going to ring me today. Every time the phone goes I wonder if it's him. Every time he rings me, I wonder if this is the call where he will ask to come back home. We're all feeling it, but some of us choose not to let this rule our lives. I probably care and love my H just as much as you love your W, but I don't go on about it. Just to prove that I'm trying to GAL, tomorrow I'm meeting a friend for a coffee, on Weds my son finishes his work experience and then we'll go off to have something to eat in town. Thurs I'm seeing my life coach and Fri we're off to the leisure centre. Saturday we're going to an event in town, Sunday it's church and meeting my friend for lunch and Monday we're off to a music festival Will I be thinking about my H? Of course I will. Will I be pining about my H? I hope not! Will I be expecting a phone call from him? yes he's supposed to be taking my son out on Sunday. I might have been a bit harsh in this post, but it's only because I care and I don't want you to think that I think any less of my H because I'm not sitting here pining for him, wasting my days away by feeling sorry for myself. Have you been to the doc yet? The sooner you go the better then she can help you with your depression and find some groups for you to go to
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Will I be thinking about my H? Of course I will. Will I be pining about my H? I hope not! Will I be expecting a phone call from him? yes he's supposed to be taking my son out on Sunday.