No mediator, the W is going through the solicitor, I am acting on my own. Couldn't be bothered paying someone to do that. The only part that is going to drag on, if it does, is the agreement to the house values. I had both properties valued via the bank. I offered to buy out the W at those values. She had the properties valued at real estate values (yeah right) and wants those ridiculous prices. My bank will not allow me to buy out the W at those prices, so now comes the bartering. I still see the sons during school holidays. Both of them are down in the city. The youngest son left the country with us at the end of last year, when the BD hit. His schooling had finished so it was a timed event. Again you wonder about final son leaving home and what is called the "empty nest" syndrome with the W. I call my sons each week, sometimes twice and/or text them. Our family isn't big texters, so it usually is a text and the reply, end. The hardest thing about the sons, is both are very friendly in the family way with the SIL. This worries me at times, as she is anti hotwheelsaust, so I wonder how much the sons hear about me or not.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
The hardest thing about the sons, is both are very friendly in the family way with the SIL. This worries me at times, as she is anti hotwheelsaust, so I wonder how much the sons hear about me or not.
Thats a tough one aust, keep working on and being the best aust you can be, they will figure it out.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
I agree sub guy Hope things sort themselves out for you soon HWA and look forward to hearing your updates regarding your new GALing I'm just going to update my thread as I've not done it for a while
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
The hardest thing about the sons, is both are very friendly in the family way with the SIL. This worries me at times, as she is anti hotwheelsaust, so I wonder how much the sons hear about me or not.
It's not nice. Like subguy says they will sort if out. People don't tend to make their minds up on what they are or are not told about people they know. They do that themselves. Just keep in contact and let them know your there.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Thanks all with regards to the sons. I keep in regular contact and I try to show new PMA to them. Not much else I can do, until I move back to the city.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Have printed out my own statements I made a page back. Otherwise I will tend to forget them and start going negative. So printed off a copy for the office at work and the mirror in the bedroom. So I see them all the time. Not that I look at myself in the mirror all the time.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Good idea I was thinking of printing out a few good posts as well, such as the prayer for the LBS There was another post that was good as well, but I can't remember what it was now! I'm sure I've bookmarked it somewhere!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well true Wonka, I keep looking for that 6 pack which is so close. Losing all that weight and now starting back at the gym. woo hoo. Never been so good. Last count though, I think about 12 a4 pages of stuff on the mirror.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Hope things sort themselves out for you soon HWA and look forward to hearing your updates regarding your new GALing 