Hi DFE, I agree with TTD180.. it is possible that he was testing the waters to see how you would react. What was the dynamic between you and him before all of this? Do you normally tease and joke around with each other? It is possible that he thought he was being funny, and that he was just joking around. I understand how you would feel hurt by what he did, I would feel the same way as you did in the situation. I think sometimes the WAS doesn't realize the impact that all of their actions has on us. We are already very sensitive to everything going on around us and these kind of things make us feel worse. Sometimes I will point out to my H how something he did made me feel sad and he looks completely surprised like he didn't know it would affect me that way.

Another reason could be that he was caught up in the moment and it felt like old times for him again. I find that every so often I do something out of habit, like smack his bum when he's walking by, or calling him 'babe'. My first thought when I read your post about the kiss was that it was just out of habit, that he was used to acting that teasing way around you. He was just being playful, thing was that it wasn't funny. Try not to worry about it too much, I think it's great that you are spending time together! I don't think he meant it in a bad way at all!

Cheers, have a great week,
-cp

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.