Being an auntie is soooo much fun. You get to play with them, form Rs with them, and then GIVE 'em back to their parents without any of the headaches!
You seem to be DBing wonderfully and keep on keeping on baby!! Sometimes it is good not having to define the R as it messes up your head and heart. When you and P are ready, then you'll know what to do if you elect to 'define' the status of the R.