Thank you F, and Sandi. The dialog between the two of you has been very helpful for me. I am one month post divorce, and have needed to make (in Sandi's words) a sharp turn in how I am interacting with my ex. I realize, of course there may be some slight differences as my ex is H, and male, not female and Sandi is giving advice on the mind of the female, but I think there are many similarities that I can draw from and i greatly appreciate the detail she is describing. I know it seems weird, (in my case 30 years with my exH) to go back to the rules of "courting 101" and all the nuances associated with it, and not hanging on for dear life when the other party has given the signal that they are not interested in the relationship. Maybe our struggle with it is just because it IS so basic......I seem to want to make if more complicated than it really is. At any rate, thank you again for this help, and F, I am right there with you, giving this whole polite, distantly friendly, thing with my ex, a go.
