better to love or be loved?

[kat727]

Your H is living Ina fantasy fog. He isn't going to see what you want him to see, only what he wants through his fantasy glasses. Focusing on him and hoping he will become aware right now, anyway, isn't going to do it.

You need to work on you now. Don't let him call your cell to talk to your daughter, have him call the house phone. Next time do that. This is your home now and that is a rule for you. By him calling your cell he is 1) tying you to the phone and keeping you close and 2) controlling the situation. Nip that in the bud.

I have been where you are. Even 5 years post divorce he doesn't think he did anything wrong. He is busy raising her kids not his own. He did marry OW almost 3 years ago. He tries to have it come off like he is this wonder dad but his own kids call it: he isn't interested in being a dad, just an occasional buddy. My heart aches for them but at least they see it.

Hang in there. kat