I think you will have to sit with everything for a while. No decisions anywhere. Don't talk to cute guy, don't talk to H, now is the time to figure what you need.
H is cake eating a bit in terms of "I want to move back, but I still have feeling for OW"
If you need the love and respect, the dating and the wooing, then that is what you need. If you accept less, I think that resentment can build.
Of course, H needs to know that this is what you would require. Guy's not a mind reader.
