I just realized that I am guilty of participating in the Karpman Drama Triangle... oh my gosh... man it never stops lol. Once I think I start to get a handle on me God allows me to realize something else about my character.
Okay so what happens is as follows. Someone will ask me to do something, if I say no that should be the end of it. Well obviously it isn't haha. If that person then starts in with trying to convince or give me the guilt trip i usually give in and say yes. then I'll be resentful because I really don't want to do it and give the guilt trip back or act crappy.
I am reading co-dependent no more and this scenario just happened and I realized almost immediately afterwards. Ugh!!! another thing to work on. I felt guilty which is why I said yes but i held onto resentment because i gave into the guilt that i felt. Now, to start realizing this while it is happening and allow the other person to live with my decision and to stop owning their guilt. Question is how to do just that...
This is H exactly and we have talked about this. He has acquiesced his whole life and wound up here.
Try the truth:
Thanks for thinking about me, but I am not comfortable with that. or I have plans or No, thank you. etc.
