better to love or be loved?

[willbwell]

yes, the detaching is hard. H has moved out, but he will call/text d everyday using my phone. I give her the phone to answer. I could tell h to call on the house phone but I don't.

it is the financial stuff that scares me. its the having to do all the stuff I haven't had to these past 20+ years. like, pay the bills, insurance, car tags etc...Stuff I can do I know, just adds to my daily list- welcome to grown up world I guess. I've had it easy being a SAHM.

This is the big one, and I know you are dealing too... knowing h is with someone else having a good time. doing fun stuff, not a care in the world. Meanwhile... I put my kids first. I think ow leaves her kids with her mom so she can be with my h. way to go!

yep, life is not fair. but, I will say, I do know my blessings. I have great kids, great friends, a great family.

i'll say this here. I know I am supposed to focus on me and not h, but here is my detach struggle...I want h to be a better guy. I want him to see how great and the joys of family. he says he is there for kids, but doesn't want to be married. I know a million times I can't control him. I have to accept.
Thanks for letting me share.