Figuring out the old and new life

[RosaLinda]

"The only way W is moving out is if mr unbelievably wonderful appears, or I mess up big time. She already knows I'm not the problem, but is also still convinced she can never feel any "passion" for me. 

To be honest, for quite a while now I've felt that I'm more likely to end this than she is."

Sounds like you're doing pretty well FY. The ghost tour sounds fun but I guess you didn't see one! I saw one at the hospital once. Crazy!

So GF has a new BF! She sure gets around. Not the 65 year old guy I guess? I think it's good for your W to have some fun and excitement living vicariously thru GF's adventures. Much better than acting them out herself. 

I've been spinning a bit with my H's conjugal visit to Moscow looming in two weeks, and the vets have been giving me pep talks about truly letting go, becoming detached, letting my H go with love. 

We lived rather quietly side by side like "friends" like you and your W for the first 3 1/2 years of this. He had EAs but no PAs. I felt, if not detached, at least resolved to letting him live out his changes he needs to go thru, and not get in his way. But it's harder now knowing he will physically be with RT for a whole month. 

I know your W's actions still hurt you sometimes. Do you think you are detached FY, and  if so, how did you accomplish it?