Me 10 months on. Dark and detaching still.

[hotwheelsaust]

No mediator, the W is going through the solicitor, I am acting on my own. Couldn't be bothered paying someone to do that. The only part that is going to drag on, if it does, is the agreement to the house values. I had both properties valued via the bank. I offered to buy out the W at those values. She had the properties valued at real estate values (yeah right) and wants those ridiculous prices. My bank will not allow me to buy out the W at those prices, so now comes the bartering.
I still see the sons during school holidays. Both of them are down in the city. The youngest son left the country with us at the end of last year, when the BD hit. His schooling had finished so it was a timed event. Again you wonder about final son leaving home and what is called the "empty nest" syndrome with the W.
I call my sons each week, sometimes twice and/or text them. Our family isn't big texters, so it usually is a text and the reply, end.
The hardest thing about the sons, is both are very friendly in the family way with the SIL. This worries me at times, as she is anti hotwheelsaust, so I wonder how much the sons hear about me or not.