What do you mean you can't change it? You have to stop any initiating contact. You can't have some percentage of initiating! You are in a different position now. If you initiate contact one time to her three....you might as well forget this whole plan.
I can’t change the past – that’s what I meant! I was only referring to what is done is done…. I don’t and I won’t initiate contact – I follow the rules that are in my list to the best of my abilities. Sorry that I was unclear!
Originally Posted By: Sandi2
You can't deferent her on FB and still have some kind of 3-1 contact rule. That's nuts. (btw, don't defriend her yet.)
The same applies here – 3-1 rule is gone!! Now it is 1000-0 unless something about children.
Originally Posted By: Sandi2
I'm not sure what you mean about the scouts. What I remember reading, i agreed with you that it was entirely too long for the little one to stay in car.
I have given this a lot of thoughts since I received several comments on this one. I will tell W that I think it isn’t good for D4 and D6 to eat so late, get late to bed and so on. I will also tell her that this is the reason for me not promising to take D6 to scout. If she wants me to take the blame I believe I will tell that this is due to her choices and not mine and if she wishes that I state this to the children I will do so.
Originally Posted By: Sandi2
I do not agree with validating her. You said you are not very good at it, and it could make you appear more like you are buttering up your W just to keep her in a better mood. This is another down side for her leaving the R. Why would you validate? And please don't tell me it is b/c somebody gave that advice. Guess what, things are different now.
It has to do with advice given to me….sorry to say. I would validate to show that I am understanding guy. I understand that things are different but you told me to be pleasant when I talk to her – I believe validating adds to pleasant – am I wrong?
I am confused about how to act when I speak to her and meet her! I get the few words and the being kind but could you write more about this issue? What about the 37 rules – are they also gone? Do I need a new set of rules?
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Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
