I agree. This is all right and true...but you are also right in me not being able to being it up as he will pull be trigger and walk out. Lose lose situation...
If he really has that little respect for you, what exactly are you losing if you call his bluff? How is having some definite decision being made worse than living with the daily uncertainty? It's only "lose-lose" if you accept the premise that you won't be OK if he leaves. That is simply not true.
He likes having you so scared that you won't say or do anything, and he knows that he just needs to feed you the occasional crumb to keep you around. And he will try to convince you that it's all your fault the marriage isn't working, when he needs to put in effort as well.
Mark my words, he will keep escalating and keep pushing the boundaries to see exactly what you will let him get away with. If he's not got an OW now, I think it's only a matter of time before he does. He's living on the wild side now, why not add a little more spice by getting mixed up with a woman who will give him what he wants, when he wants it? Who wants to go home to the bitchy, sexless wife who nags him about coming home at a reasonable hour and spending time with his kids?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
