Trains and Boats and Planes.......

[WenikiTiki]

I had a funky weekend, and just now had a positively amazing epiphany.

First my funky weekend: My DIL gave me a gift card to a local spa for my birthday. They had a nice package, so I upgraded it and had a nice 5 hour fancy massage, facial, manicure pedicure. This was the 4th massage, 3rd facial and 2nd time I have ever had professional pedicure in my life. I just don't do that sort of thing. But I am trying to keep on trying new things.

Of course at the time to pay, the gift card won't work, My phone had shut down and wouldn't turn back on and so on. So I paid the full price. It took all of today to sort it out with the spa. (The gift card was entered with my DIL's name wrong.) Anyway they refunded me the difference. And pretty much blamed it on my DIL. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure she knows her own name.

Anyway, way to harsh my mellow spa people. I don't see myself going back there, EVER.

Okay, my epiphany. MY BFF keeps telling me that my X hasn't moved out because he is perfectly comfortable right where he is. OW hasn't moved back here. And I'm pretty sure it is because she would loose her precious freedom. (Instead I loose mine.....)

Weirdness abounds with all this. I thought I saw her X 3 times, two times at the VA where I work and one time in the gym. So I did a little on-line sleuthing. Yes, he stayed on the island after their divorce. To his credit the one time when I was sure it was him who passed me in the hall I turned around to look and he scurried into the men's room. So clearly he doesn't want to see me. I'm not sure why I thought he left the island. I don't want to leave, who in their right mind would?

So my HR peeps have a policy that we always go to lunch in small groups. I am going to start sticking with that policy. And I have been taking an intern with me to my weekly weigh-ins. Seems like a good idea to have back-up. Because OW's X is as crazy as she is.

Anyway, for whatever reason, I am back on this site, seriously reading other peoples threads. I suddenly feel the need to learn and understand more. Thank you all for continuing to share all your insights. I am a slow learner, I feel.

To those of you who post to me, I try to read your threads and understand your situations. If I don't post back to you, it is because I don't have anything constructive to say. Those of you who haven't yet shared your story, what is holding you back? This is a wonderful resource to get us through these tough times.

Aloha!