pay no mind to the demons; they fill you w/fear

[Whiterose]

WR,
It's very early for you to try to make a decision about your situation. We have a phrase here that we use a lot "when in doubt, do nothing". You will know when you've had enough. For now, sit quietly and allow the answers to fall into your lap.

I can see how this is a very useful mantra to live by.....I would think that if I'm making knee jerk reactions because of my feeling of depression than I'm not much better than H

WR, I would suggest that you keep your conversations w/family members to a minimum when it comes to your situation. The less they know, the better.

This is great advice. Wish I could do it but my dad lives with me and knows what is going on without being told. And of course he shares what he knows with my sisters.

It is great advice NQ....it must be doubly hard having dad in the house with you. My family is very "involved", which has benefits and drawbacks, so I do understand.

They don't want to see you in pain. You need to remember that if and when you reconcile they may have a problem with your spouse because of what they know about what is going on now, and that could in turn cause new problems.
the day he left was the day my sisters, especially, had problems....as we go forward and my family, and by family I mean FAMILY...aunts, uncles, and more cousins than you can imagine, are becoming angrier at his "stupidity" at leaving me. they wonder how he can leave a woman/wife/mother like me (their words)