How can you mend a broken heart?

[RosaLinda]

uR "You see, if you really accept that your h is in crisis, if you accept the things about you that needed to change, if you embrace who you are and what you want, then, you have db'd well. 

It isnt about standing back and being quiet and letting your h do whatever he wants. 

It is about you finding happiness within you and accepting that you have no control over him. 

It is letting go with love. And having the understanding that you love him enough to do that and you love you enough to need to. 

My friend, find you, fill your life with people and things and experiences that make you feel fulfilled. 

Accept that your h cant make you happy, only you can."

oh dear uR. I know I am supposed to fill my life with happiness, find that old inner peace and contentment that I lost when my H told me he doesn't love me anymore, and I am working on that. 

But I thought that the Dbing is the giving H space, being quiet, not pushing him, and letting him go. With love. 

The DBing is the working on myself? uR I have to be honest, I thought if I worked on myself, fixed all of the crappy things about me, got my happiness back AND gave him the space etc, I would have a better chance that his heart would return to me when his MLC is over. That is why I am standing. Is that wrong?

I guess I'll have to try to do better GALing. Or better something. Better detaching? 

I am trying to be happy, and am doing things that make me happy. I usually am happy uR. Just once in awhile it all gets to be too much. Usually when I so need a hug or reassurance from H. But I'm really fine now, thanks for your love and kind words and encouragement.