My man's opinion is, DONT contact him. Let him miss you! I bet my money he will contact you at some point.
Im still a firm believer that men, or more accurately husbands, are much more loyal than women think. He WILL miss you. He WILL want 'that old thing back' at some point.
Your challenge is to increase your worth and be more valuable than the women he will meet now that he thinks he has rid himself of the ball and chain (you)....how do you do that? By not contacting him!
It will drive him crazy thinking about how he let the confident one slip through his fingers!
And it will give you the decision of any reconcilliation, and also the upper hand in any second marriage to your H.
Stick with the plan and dont flake. You can do it!
Hi SM34, thanks for your response!
It brings to mind this quote "The person who needs the other the least will always be in control of the relationship".
Sounds harsh, but is in many ways it's true. So I definitely do want to stick to my plan and not flake as you said. It's just that one last issue that has me wondering what's the right move to make? I'm leaning towards continuing no (or very litte) contact...
I will definitely take what you said into consideration as I think on it. I'm open!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
