Taking A Stand; What's my Position?

[Mimi00]

I wonder what he means by this contact me anytime? Any opinions on this?
Any thought into this would be mind reading. My crystal ball just sh!t the bed so we are going to need someone elses...

Does he maybe like feeling needed?
Doesn't everybody?

Does he possibly want to talk to me more?
More mind reading I am thinking...

Or am I just reading way too much into it?
Could be, silly rabbit!

lol

I guess I'm asking b/c he has a history of wanting me (and others) to mind read, instead of just saying what he wants outright.

I probably should've asked more simply: Should I look at my sitch uniquely in this case, go against DB and take his saying "contact me anytime" seriously and act on it every once in a while, or just leave it at he was probably just being "friendly"?

Why I'm wondering: when he was here in July, he brought up that he didn't realize I had stopped calling and texting him (when I began LRT for 2 months) until a few weeks had passed. He said he didn't realize it b/c even when dating while living long distance, I was never one to call and text a lot (I made him pursue me). That is true. After we married and started living together, calls and texts were basically non-existant between us unless it was "pick this up from the store" etc... when he began his travel job, I would send texts of myself every once in a while, but I'd mainly leave phone calls up to him b/c of his long work hours. Not realizing I should've taken advantage of texting how much I missed him, how I was proud of him, etc.. even while he was at work to make him feel good.

With doing DB/Sandi's Rules, I have had no issues at all with not calling or texting him b/c it was never my thing in the first place, but his phone & texting is a "thing" for him.

He's obsessed w/ his phone, he sends out about 3,000+ texts a month, the one time I did see inside his facebook account(last year,long before BD, it was open already on the screen) I saw he was messaging people left and right trying to start conversations: "hi" "how are you?" "whats up". I assume he longs for conversation, it fills some kind of void for him or something? These conversations are big way for him to connect w/ others and I hadn't been a part of at all in our marriage.

I guess this is the final piece I need to figure out. To know how to move forward in my "stand". I have no problem going dark at all, that would be easy, my M.O. is to pull away, that's nothing new. So I don't think no contact is the best answer in my sitch.

Geez I type too much. I'm going to try to cut down my post lengths lol