My new normal (she has moved out)

[Grizz]

Thanks guys for the support and insight. Strange past week. W had been very friendly an even affectionate this past week. She invited me to dinner twice. The "smothering" feeling didnt seem to be there. Then comes Friday. After having supper together she dropped me and the girls off at home. They asked her to stay to watch a movie and she declined. She left. I called a mutual friend to see if they (kids) wanted to meet at the park for a while. They did.

Later that night the kids were talking to W and told her that we went to the park. W asked D why we didnt invite her. D told me this the next day. I told W yesterday that I didn't intentionally not invite her. I was trying to give her space especially since she already said that she didnt want to stay to watch a movie with the girls. She teared up and so it was no big deal.

I had friends over last night and W came. She was cold all night. She called today and asked if the girls and I want to go have lunch. She says she needs to go to the store first. I asked how long it would be and she said it would be a little while that she is buying more stuff for the apartment.

As a side note, the stuff she is buying are things that she has said previously that she wouldn't buy unless she knew that she was staying there for the long haul. I guess that is her way of telling me that she is done.

I feel like I can't win. She sets me up for failure. I hang around and I am smothering her. I don't invite her to do things then I am intentionally avoiding her which makes her mad.

I am really getting tired of this. Honestly, every step I make is the wrong step. I know, people will say don't worry about what she thinks or does. Even if it wasn't my W, it is hard to have someone act that way toward you. If it was a friend or coworker that acted this way then it would still bother me.

I have a real hard time being around her when she acts like this. If she no longer wants me in her life then I can't keep constantly hanging around her. I can't take it. It's not good for me. But, if I don't then she gets pi$$ed.

Ok I just answered the phone and it was her asking me about what kind of TV she should buy. Really?!! What does she expect from me?!!!

I have no idea what to do anymore.