I don't want h to see me as a burden or noose around his neck. That is my impression that he has of me right now. H wants his freedom.
So him his freedom. Sometimes the grass that looks greener on the other side is full of cowsh#t. However as long as you keep your H contained on this side of the fence he won't be able to realize that and you will continue to look like the noose that his holding him back. Plus, giving him his freedom, may just give you your own as well and allow you to grow and make you more attractive to him (if that is what you want). Just my 2 cents.
