better to love or be loved?

[willbwell]

thank you Cadet. I trust your wise words. Here in lies my turmoil. I have stopped contacting unless about kids or schedules. We have a handicapped d and h sends texts to her everyday via my phone. I let her text back. when he calls. I let her answer.
I want to be free to take my classes without the worry of dealing with a D. On the other hand right now, I feel anything I do pisses h off. I don't want h to see me as a burden or noose around his neck. That is my impression that he has of me right now. H wants his freedom.