The OM is not married and does not have any children. He lives by himself. Kicking her out of the house would be difficult as the house is in both our names (although the mortgage is only in mine).
I overhead an interesting conversation my wife had with OM (she is getting sloppy in hiding). She was laying down her bed talking to OM when I overheard her telling him that "she wants her marriage to work. That she has a daughter and has known H for over 10 years." I couldn't tell what his response was but I step out of the room before she noticed I was there. She did go "walking" this morning again with him so obvious she was to still be connected with this guy somehow. I might need to rethink this ultimatum/confronting her. Obviously I want to make my marriage work but I do not want this to affair to continue while she is under the same roof as I. I know that there is a lot of trust issues between she and I do to the mental abuse I gave her earlier this year. So she feels safe to talk to OM rather than to me. I need to show/demonstrate to her on a daily basis that I am a person that can be trusted. I will still speak to an attorney but will need to pray/really think/plan before I do anything else. My wife obviously has feelings for this guy and I'm sure she is torn apart on what to do. She needs to get out of this fog and there is nothing I can do to speed that up.
