so in regards to this 'letting go'...h wants D. For now, I am not saying anything. just going about my day to day. if I get served, I will have no choice. but for now, I will let h worry about D. H is mad at me that I didn't proceed with D at the start of the summer( he said that) and now here we are at the end. I start classes next week. I am not asking anything of h right now. I will do my classes and take care of kids. but, I will say, I do feel stuck...
I think the thing to do is to stay as dark/nc/dim as possible. I agree that you dont want to help the process along. Make him do the work, it is his divorce.
However be sure to protect yourself as necessary. Stand up for yourself and expecially protect your finances.
