"I realized in posting on another thread that it has been almost nine months since we last spent any time together and that does not bring back any warm and fuzzy memories for me. It was so weird and awkward. I can't even imagine us spending any time together now. And maybe he is happy in this new reincarnation of himself. He said all his changes were for the good. So where would I even fit into that?

I am trying my best to just let go. Linda, thank you for saying he was thinking of me. That he was honestly came as a shock. Now he's disappeared again and maybe one day I will hear from him. But a text message every three or four months is no way to build a relationship nor is it enough action on his part that I would consider myself comfortable enough to contact him. It might have been better had he left me alone. 

Here's to the strong ones, those of us who under pressure do not crumble but turn to diamonds."


I'm sorry SO zipped in and out like an annoying mosquito Portia. You're right, a text message every three or four months is no way to re-build a relationship; I would not contact him again now either but would wait to see what he does. 

i like your salute to the left behind diamonds. I used to be a strong one Portia. I was a strong one yesterday, but today am wallowing in self pity and tears, and it disgusts and frightens me. So I am presenting my sorry sniveling self to you for a good talking to. Okay?


Linda

Me 65, Ex 64
M 38 y
2 adult S, 4 G-Kids
MLC 11/07
BD 12/09
D 3/14
Dating nice guy 7/14
Engaged to nice guy 12/17