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What subjects is your daughter specializing in? Is she playing to her strengths?

She takes no subjects, she is not in school. She did manage to graduate high school last year (2012) - after attending summer school. She was not able to "walk" in May. But she hung in there and got her diploma which impressed me.

She has not been tested academically speaking for quite some time. I would think the disparity is no longer there because she is not able to do the higher forms of math. As a child she could do simple addition/subtraction of up to 5 digit numbers at lightening speed. She was stymied by the more complex maths, nearly didn't make it through geometry. But, her comprehension I would say is now nearly average. School is not "easy" for D19 the way it is for her brothers and she has never made it a priority. She is what I understand to be a kinesthetic learner.

Since high school she has toyed with the idea of college, trade school and the Navy. All while partying and being unable to hold a job for more than a few months. Life is also not "easy" for D19.

I like your perspective that perhaps D19's life issues will be mitigated by my efforts. (Too annoyed with H right now to give him credit. But I guess I should. Because I think he actually did the best he could. He and D19 are very similar, they both flee sitches that are difficult or uncomfortable. And H is still "here". If I look at it that way, I have to admit he is actually "trying". His skill set just isn't good. What irked me this time was that after getting the "D19's in jail" text late Fri night he was up early Sat morning to go to the casino. Didn't say a word about D19. Then, a text from him "You should see about bond for D19" URGH!! Sigh. I felt he "should" have stayed here. Looked into things WITH me, and if options were available, been HERE to help. But, that's foolish. I should know better because that is not his style and never has been.)

Everyone of us has limitations. As I recognize more of both my own and H's I realize it comes down to deciding if, despite those limitations, a future is viable.

Thanks for stopping by Bea