Interesting times

[RosaLinda]

" I wonder how OW2 deals with this 'advice' from me. 'Oh yes, this is the same type of woodburner that my xw has' Maybe she is cool with this. Would I be? Honestly I do not know. Not my problem though. "

OW2 would have to be a special kind of secure woman for that to not bother her Bea, and from what I've read, OW are anything but self assured and strong. Your posts always make me laugh and think, thanks! 

AJ's thoughts on OP are interesting. That it would "weigh them down later in life" to know that they destroyed a family. I think OP are selfish and self centered. They will rationalize their actions and forgive themselves. Wouldn't even have to forgive themselves because they didn't do anything wrong. 

I asked my H once if RT doesn't feel ashamed of herself for trying to break up his marriage just to get a green card. He said that she rationalizes her actions - I had my chance to make him happy and failed, I am a POS for lying and cheating on him for 38 years, and SHE can make him happy. I wish I could go back and complete that conversation on RT's motivations. But I got distracted by her assertion that I am a cheating POS

The thought that they had destroyed a marriage and family would weigh down normal people. But that moral compass that would cause a potential OP to feel weighed down is what keeps them from destroying a family in the first place. 

I'm such a downer lately, sorry. Feeling sorry for myself. I guess it's knowing H is leaving in 2 1/2 weeks and I may never feel his arms around me again. But....his loss.