How can you mend a broken heart?

[RosaLinda]

"MY family would like me to screw H to the wall. My BIL (sister's H) offered to give me his last dime to do so. I acknowledge their feelings, and validate, (almost DBing with them too) they DO have valid points and want our happiness.....I try to see it as coming from a place of love. I then tell them that they are sick and it's been 20 years of my life and four months is not nearly enough time to make a decision like that.  back than I did working on myself!"

Screw him to the wall eh?

I explained that all to H's mom, Rose, and she seemed to really understand and be on board with DBing. Then changed her mind and insists it's "about time" to kick him out. It's been 4 years for us, but that is still a drop in the bucket compared to 38 years.  

But I am tired. Tired of DBing. Of having to STFU unless H wants to talk to me. I need to be held, spoken to kindly, I need to feel that my H loves me, that I mean something to him besides a meal ticket. 

I guess it would be too much to hope for a ray of hope now while he's excitedly anticipating his trip to Moscow to see RT again. But I honestly don't know how long I'll be able to carry on DBing when he returns if he treats me the same or worse. If she makes plans to come here again that will be the end for me.