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[MrBond]

"There are advocates of exposing the EA. MrBond himself did just that and actually berated his wife over the moral implications of EA."

This is not correct. I want to clarify this.

First of all, I didn't "expose" the A. My W told me she was interested in someone else right off the bat and the OM showed up at my working place to confront me. So I didn't expose anything.

Second, I never berated my W over the "moral" implications of the A. I talked to her about the consequences of what she was doing. And then I would stand my ground when she started to say things that wasn't true or when I felt she overstepped my boundaries.

With that being said, you're approaching your situation wrongly. If you leave, you don't do it because you want her to feel something. You do it because YOU are tired of being treated this way and either way, you have no expectation of a reaction from her. You leave for YOU and NOT for her.

"What I would like to know is should I get tough one more time and confront W to make her understand her actions?"

You CANNOT make her do anything. You can only change yourself and become a better man.

If you're going to leave, make sure your children are taken care of first. Go for 50% custody with them or else you will not get a chance to see them and they'll be raised by another man.